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This Too Shall Pass

October 27, 2020 by Candy A. Westbrook

Dear Football Mom,

Not sure you can answer this question, but going to give it a shot. Our son signed as free agent with NFL a few years ago. He was cut before he played a down. My question to you: isn’t the team franchise responsible for paying travel back home? As his dad, I’ve been miffed that they didn’t pay a cent toward his travel expense home. He hasn’t wanted me to step in, and his agent won’t return phone calls. It’s not about the money—it’s the principle of the matter.

Dear Reader,

Well, let it never be said that those NFL-ers don’t have an over-active amount of gall and guts. Or the slightest lick-a-sense.

My initial inkling is there are no hard and fast rules to release players and pay for the return trip back home. I would think it depends on the circumstances of the cut and how generous the franchise feels at the moment. As with the signees, the owner often pulls a lot of weight as to who is signed and who is expendable.

But since I do my best to be accurate and research what I can as “The Heart Behind the Gridiron,” I phoned an NFL franchise to pose your question. Turns out, my thoughts were purdy-much right on and correct to a point.

Depends on the circumstances all right. If a player was highly paid guy, one of the Queen Anne black-eyed variety, then there should be no problem returning home to sign with another team. But the smaller, plain ole garden peas gets the shaft! That’s what ya call, a pea-pickin-shame. It boils down to what was in their contract. Shame on your agent for not at least calling you back and splaining things.

A loaded question for sure and one I’m glad you shared with us.

Dear Football Mom,

Our state is closed to playing any football right now. Covid, the culprit. We have a peewee player rounding his last year playing for our county team. Given the statistics moving forward, what do you suppose is going to happen to the game? Be honest. Given the untold injuries like broken bones, heat exhaustion, and the dangerous traumatic concussion issues that may go unreported, yet continues to plague football and its safty. How can this game survive?

Dear Reader,

Since your state is not open to playing the game, you can rule out heat exhaustion at this point … It will take more than this crazy Covid to bring down football. That said, I get where you’re coming from. I really do.

Playing football for youths far out-weighs any risk involved with the game. The benefits are stacked in favor of football, not against it. Most certainly many fellers would do themselves a favor to sign-up and play instead of joining a gang, for insistence. Guys want to be part of a club—it’s within their natural DNA to be part of something. Ask most any high-risk youth why they joined up with a gang in the first place. The answer is not only the environment in which they lived, but because they wanted to feel like they “belonged.” This is my opinion, but many experts agree, and the stats are sadly true.

Regrettably, I don’t see many treehouses anymore where boys could gather and hang out with a no-girls or members-only sign on the door. That once-upon-a-time freedom to climb a tree, play kick the can, run the neighborhood till dark, camp out in a friend’s pasture, and even let your best buddy hunt for snipe holding a bag. All gone to putt, seems like. But those kind of things kept boys out of real trouble and gave them a sense of belonging just the same. Like a football team does.

In football, a fella can run off steam, release some emotions, throw off pent-up anger, and stick it to the other team all without repercussions. Football teaches teamwork and creates that sense of belonging to the club. Football is a good thang for guys.

No one can answer your underlying question, should my son continue to play? That could possibly be your real question and my answer to that is, only if he wants to play.

A parent can encourage playing a sport, but never force-feed it upon a child. In my opinion again, that is where most injuries come from. A fella has to play full throttle, and if he doesn’t really want to play, then he’s not all in. That is a huge problem. If a kid has a lackadaisical attitude, that sets him up for injury quicker than a sneeze.

No ma’am, I don’t believe football is going anywhere anytime soon. So, breakout the team colors, put your concern away, and hike up those bleachers as the proud mama you are!

Football & The Weight Room

March 23, 2020 by Candy A. Westbrook

Dear Football Mom,

What age is appropriate for a boy to work out in a weight room? Our son is only in 6^th grade, and the middle school coach is having the team work out in the high school weight room before spring practice. I think this is excessive, my husband doesn’t. What say you?

Dear Reader,

Great question! Let’s see if we can whittle it down and keep it simple. Remember, I’m the heart behind the gridiron, not the expert technique trainer or specialist supervisor in such matters. That said, I have learned a smidge or two through the years.

It is important, imperative even, as a child gets older to do some form of training if they are going to play any sport, not just football. But let’s see if we can first grasp a few layers about weight training.

Y’all understand that a boy—if they are playing or intend to play football—has got to love that weight room, as if it makes their heart go pitter-patter every time they step foot in there. Just like one of them gals who caught their eye and makes their heart do the same thing when they pass her in the halls. Ya gotta love the weight room and the aroma. Once mamas understand that, the rest really isn’t rocket science. Here’s my take on the info I’ve read or gathered from coaches through the years. Having two sons working out and the up-close experience of that didn’t hurt, because I was right where you are now with questions galore.

Before age ten, kids should exercise using only their body weight as resistance such as: pull-ups, push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks, squats, and lunges. Any games that are fun to get children moving, all the better. Running starts and stops, skipping and throwing are all great. We can thank President Kennedy for today’s P. E. programs implemented at our schools.

After ten, they can usually add resistance bands under the careful eye of an expert, like a strength coach. Now then, it is also very important that proper technique be taught all the way through every age level. My sons are huge believers in correct technique, they are adamant to the point of being dogged determined about it.

Once fellers reach thirteen, fourteen, and so on, specific sport training should begin. This age enters the maturity of young muscles, tendons, and growth platelets and can handle a gradual intensity volume of workouts with weights. Can’t stress enough that whoever is calling the shots should be well-trained in sports weight strength and conditioning and have done it themselves at some point.

The reason weight training is a good thing: It’s been proven, especially in football and surely other sports too, but I do football so here’s the skibby in that sport—it is the KEY to keeping players healthy and avoiding severe injuries. Approximately seventy-eight percent of injuries are to the upper body for those who did NOT have a set weight-lifting program in a three-year study of high school football players. That study done a few years ago does not give coaches a free pass to run amuck without guidelines in place. Good coaches want healthy players—injured players are just not useful. No coach worth his salt wants his players getting hurt, especially in the weight room!

Weight and strength training enriches athletes of all sports, true, but I reckon maybe football more than others. Training increases muscle strength, endurance, protects players’ joints, strengthens bones, and enriches performance. Not to mention the health benefits: blood pressure, cholesterol levels, boosts metabolism, promotes healthy weight, and improves self-esteem. Those are all recipes for a healthy team.

Nothing wrong with you doing your homework so you can see first hand what your son is doing and how your coach is benefiting him in the long run. Go visit the weight room. I suppose he’ll be a seventh grader next year, and I don’t think you’d want him stepping on the field without some training and time spent conditioning.

Of course, if you do go to the weight room while he and his team are working out, I’m almost sure your son would get some hounding from his teammates. Go anyway! A little bird-dogging could make your son tougher and backfire on his teammates once he sets some school records playing next year. Just a thought. And, I do try to keep it positive.

Footnote: That brings me to my closeout for the year. I’m starting next season with “hazing” issues. Be sure to check that out next August in your local newspaper. I’ll be back.

In the meantime, send me your questions, Candy@CandyAWestbrook.com, and as always, complete confidentiality here. Best wishes for an awesome spring practice. Looking forward to hearing all about it.

I have to say, y’all have been swell this year. Thanks to each of you for allowing me the opportunity to game plan together. I’m grateful beyond words. In some small way, I hope we added to your conversation and helped your sons reach or exceed their football goals, and maybe extinguished a few fires along the way. I meet moms/parents/fans of football at www.CandyAWestbrook.com throughout the year. Feel free to stop by and say howdy.

Where’s the Loyalty?

March 11, 2020 by Candy A. Westbrook

Dear Football Mom,

Most of our families, including extended family, are LSU fans. Not all of them are in our newspaper’s reading area, but I gave them your website so they could read the recent column you wrote about the feud between next-door neighbors LSU and Clemson fans. You can’t control what some fans do, or their nasty antics. The rant about the eggs thrown was justifiable. I am, however, so proud of our LSU Tigers!

LSU was the clear winner and reigning National Champions. But we are upset with all the coaches leaving LSU right after the win. Who are really the winners? Yes, we hold the title, but when most coaches leave instantly after a winning season, come on. Begs the question, wouldn’t those coaches likely had to have been making those deals before the game? To us, that is disgusting. What say you?

Dear Reader,

Oh, my sweet Purple Tiger Fan. Where have you been all my life? I agree it is disgusting!

That dirty little back room has cleaned the clocks of many football programs, their fans, boosters, and alum. LSU is, sadly, no different from many other universities that get peppered for a spell. Where is that Louisiana Hot Sauce when you need it …

These dudes, the coaches, scream loyalty with gobs of powdered sugar piled high on their beignets when it comes to making those deals. They most certainly want those sweet loyalty clauses in their contracts, which really don’t exist. What does exist is the green and purple King Cake called paperbacks. Most contracts protect the universities from going into bankruptcy. The baby’s in the buyout portion. These are safety nets included in the contracts. In other words, if an athletic director from another program steals say, a head coach from a winning program, the AD agrees to buy out the contract of the coach he wishes to hire. Forget Mardi Gras and take the mask off. It’s musical chairs, plain and simple. Programs have paid millions in fees just to hire the new eye candy they think is the answer to their woes. Too often, that sugar high melts like butter and turns into gooey jambalaya. The program paid millions for nothing.

But LSU didn’t just lose some coaches, they lost key players too. Tremendous players. Now that’s what I call a mushy mess! The poor ole fellers who are left will have to start from scratch to make their red beans and rice. But, your Coach O is like a roux to the gumbo and he’s recruited some awesome players. He is one of the best in the business and he’ll flavor that pot with just the right ingredients. He’s born and bred Louisianan and he’s not going anywhere except back to business in Tiger Stadium.

I dare say some of those players who did leave for the NFL will never make it in the NFL for various reasons. Not trying to be Negative Nelly here, just can’t help but call the cups of sugar as I’ve seen them for a few years. What you think might be a good deal turns out not such a great deal after all. Just like a double hot-fudge Sunday, it looks good … taste good … but come Monday morning stepping on the scales, and they tilt forward. Ouch.

This kind of stuff happens every year to programs across the country. It’s not very nice. And back to the loyalty thing … it hurts. But remember when y’all LSU folks thought you’d never recover from the loss of a guy named Nick Sabin who threw off he’s beads for the NFL?

Gimme A Break, Gimme A Break

February 24, 2020 by Candy A. Westbrook

Dear Football Mom,

Our son will graduate this spring and signed to play college football on National Signing Day. We are thrilled! His dad thinks he needs to continue to work out and run. I think he should take a break because he’s been working out for at least four years through high school. I do know it will be more strenuous in college but I feel enough already, let the kid have a break before heading out our door next year. What is your take on this? Should he keep working out or take a break before he reports to the college campus next fall?

Dear Reader,

How do I get myself smack-dab in the muddling mess of arguments between moms and dads? Do y’all really want me to take sides? You should read some of my email when questions are thrown at me like mortar squeezed out of tubes. It is then—I end up getting stuck right in the middle of the mud hole! You reckon I should know better by now.

Congratulations to y’all and your son. Get ready for some exciting days ahead of being true to your school like you would to your girl!! Fun times ahead for you and family. Soak up every minute because it will be over before you can say, “hut, hike.”

Yes, of course he still needs to work out. And for the record, I’m not taking your husband’s side. Even though your son signed and is headed for the college football team, he still needs to get stronger and faster before he shows up on campus. Without a doubt, those college puppies need all the preparation they can muster, and freshman report a week or two earlier than the upper classmen do. You wouldn’t want that feller of yours in dire straits throwing up at the first Oklahoma drill, would you?

Did he, himself want to take time off? If so, he will be in for a rude awakening once on campus. Most folks have no idea what’s ahead. Right now, when the stadium is quiet and the fans are home, most believe its off-season for the college player. Ha! Once Christmas break is over and those players report back to campus, they are killin’ themselves with what college coaches call mat drills. There is no such a thing as off-season for most athletes who are serious about their sport.

The players are required to pull themselves out of bed at 4 a.m. and report to the gym. They are given several special “stations” in which to drain themselves of any pride, accomplishments, or past rewards. This is the humbling effect. And the coaches thrive on seeing how low they can drive these young men. Did I really say men? They will turn them fellers into men come heck or high water. By cracky, you can count on it.

These drills are different on the various college campuses, but the psyche behind them is the same. Bring a team together, make the word teamwork come alive, and drive mental discipline to be front and center … provided the players don’t keel over first. On some accounts, these drills are worse than two-a-days in spring. Running bleachers is only part of the regime, but have you ever run bleachers? Yeah, I would say a boy better be in shape and have he’s head screwed on straight. By that, I mean his mental toughness had better be intact. No whiners allowed.

It will be almost a full year before your son experiences this routine, but there is that little thing called preseason camp that will require him to bust his hump in just a few short months. So, what’s ya think, mama? Should he work out in the weight room and run? Hmmm …

Where There’s A Will

February 19, 2020 by Candy A. Westbrook

Dear Football Mom,

I’m a single mom, and this week I nearly lost it. I’m a wreck. My son doesn’t have one scholarship offer. Signing day is just weeks away. What do we do? How can I help my son, who has worked so hard throughout his high school years, to achieve a college football scholarship? Without financial help, I’m not sure he can attend college. I’m desperate. I’m not too proud to ask for help. Do you have any connections, any tricks in your bag, any tips to help us?

Dear Reader,

Oh dear, don’t fall apart. I’ve been in your shoes, and I know the panic button is at defcon two! Believe it or not, there is still time. Together, let’s see if we can bring this to a successful finish. But I will tell you this: no tricks, no bag, and no tips here. Maybe suggestions, but the tips I leave for those with PhDs.

Yes, you are right, the 2020 college signing day is February 5, and it’s coming like a rocket blast. Straight up though, I will tell you many players sign after signing day. So, don’t get flustered or go having a hissy fit. Let’s take it one-step at a time, and I hope this game plan of action might ease your worries right onto your son signing with his dream team. Keep in mind, sometimes you have to take the scenic route.

Have you talked to his high school coach? Try getting in touch with him immediately, and have an honest heart to heart about where your son might fit in with a college team. There could be a program that hasn’t known of your son and he’d fit in perfectly. He could be the answer they’re looking for. You never know if you don’t ask.

Make sure you have what you need at the drop of a hat, so you are equipped and loaded with the correct information, ready to send it lickety split to any coach asking for it. Or to take with you to any meetings you might set up … all the better. Things like highlight film, a copy of your son’s grades obtained from his high school’s counselor’s office. And, while you’re at it, get numerous copies. Maybe even his stats. These are topics you should cover in your conversation with his coach.

If any recruiters have called your home or sent emails or snail mail, call them now, pronto. Ask to speak to the recruiter for your area. Or, if you have the name of the coaches who did call, ask to speak to them directly. Also, engage them in conversation. Don’t show your desperation, but do let them know your concerns for your son if all opportunities with their program are closed. Then and only then—when the door is closed—ask about walking on and what their policy might be for new players who do just that. Remember, walking on could be an option. He could work his way to a scholarship next year with said team. But he will have to work and prove he deserves at least a fraction of the financial aid.

When you are talking to these coaches, ask them if they know of other coaches who might be looking for the talent/position of your son. By that, I mean to tell you, they all know each other. They, college coaches, are all jocking for a one up with each other. But on occasion, you’ll find a kind generous coach willing to go the distance and help. It never hurts to ask for a reference, and then go right ahead and ask them if they might be inclined to give them a call on your behalf. Make sure you write down who they said and their contact information.

For a coach to contact another coach in the interest of your son gives you leverage and a heads-up to the coach you are about to call. It sets a positive stage. You have to be a tad bold. I know, it can be intimidating in the all-male world of college football, but as I’ve always said, “You never G-E-T till you A-S-K.” And honey, you gotta ask away.

Also, contact any junior colleges in your area with a football program. Nothing wrong with starting at a junior college and transferring once his viability goes up.

Another thing to keep in mind, some states offer government funded money (grants) for academic achievements such as an average GPA of 3.00. Then again, if your son has an average 4.00, he’ll easily qualify for academic scholarships. Then, walking on should be a walk in the park. It’d be a good idea to check with his counselor’s office to find out more about these opportunities, anyway. Academic scholarships or any other county/community grants will allow y’all some time without you forking over tuition fees for the first semester. It’s worth checking out.

If all else fails and there truly isn’t a place—a program for him to land—please reach out to me again. Not that I can do a thing, or wave a magic wand, but I’m pulling for you, and I do give a hoot.

You don’t want to hear this—oh, you really don’t—but he could stay home the first semester, and get a job, save his money. But make sure he keeps a regime of working out somewhere. He might ask his coach if he can use the weight room, but he’ll also need someone to spot him. Maybe investing in a six-month gym membership might not be a bad idea. He doesn’t need to lose ground, and he needs to be ready to tackle the college field possibly next semester. You never know he could get a chance to walk on somewhere in the spring. It’s not what y’all want to have to do, but it is a solid plan.

I’m a strong believer in where there’s a will—there’s a way. When you work hard, put God first, and stay at it … good things do happen!

Dear Football Mom,

With the Super Bowl on everyone’s schedule, I’ve read sport reports of NFL players having service dogs on the sidelines to sooth their nerves. What do you think about that?

Dear Reader,

I think those NFL-ers need to go and open a dog pound. Bless their hearts.

This Too Shall Pass

Football & The Weight Room

Where’s the Loyalty?

Gimme A Break, Gimme A Break

Where There’s A Will

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